Stony is undoubtedly growing up. He is 10 years old now.
The little boy who needed all my help, support and attention just 1 year ago, by now is dramatically changing and wanting to be independent.
First when our special need child tells us: “..no mom thanks I can do it alone!” hits you. Slams you. Punches you.
As we special need parents get used to our role so much..and we have made such a strong and deep commitment with our destiny that when you first realize things are changing it makes you kinda confused..and intimidated. But this ambivalent feeling does not last for long..since the commitment we have taken was to serve, help and support our special need child and help him to get ready for LIFE. So when I realize Stony wants to do something alone oh I want him to do it so much! 🙂
So since he has started the 5th grade this fall he came to me with the idea: ” Mom I would like to choose and select my snack what I take to school.”
Knowing Stony as a very responsible dude when it is about food, ( as the food security in our house since he was born is very important ) I thought, O.K. Let’s give it a try! My approach to Stony is always sourcing from a very strong trust and we like to give him the credit.
Also I thought it is time for Stony to take some responsibility and start to control his own food. Think, decide, and take consequences. This is how he is going to learn more and more.
So I told him : ” O.K. Stony, from now on you do your own snacks. You choose you decide but before you put it to your backpack just let me to supervise your choices..” He agreed.
Now after 6 weeks that the school has started I can tell you our collaboration with Stony works great so far.
He knows he has to be very careful, and his snack beside some carbs and protein has to contain some fruits. So he at the same time is learning the nutritional values of his food.
I obviously keep a close eye on his assignment in the kitchen, and when I ( very rarely! ) see him putting something what would be inappropriate ( instead of 1 protein bar he puts 2 protein bars, or he snitches a tiny piece of chocolate to the box ) I talk to him. These talks are never easy since I have to over evaluate his decision what is extremely hard to tolerate for PWS individuals. But these are opportunities and challenges for him to learn more and improve his awareness about food.
Let me to share with you one of his choice from last week, that has made me laugh loudly in the morning.
He put these tree items to his box ( you can see it on the photo below):
-4 pieces of popcorns
-Tiny pieces of chocolate as a special treat – he told.
– a piece of a dry scale of leak ( an kind of onion ) – for veggies..he told
Despite the fact his choices were wrong this time and absolutely not satisfactory for a normal healthy snack, I loved the fact that he was trying his best…and he was so careful with his choices. There is so much to learn yet..for me and for him..but keep it up Stony..you can do it!